Headline: OUR
FRIEND AND YOURS
Reporter: By Lorraine Kee
Publication: ST.
LOUIS POST-DISPATCH
Last Printed: Sun., Jan. 5, 2003
Section: SPECIAL SECTION, Page: E1, Edition: FIVE STAR LIFT
* Though many
had never met him, readers told us that when columnist Greg Freeman died on
Tuesday they had lost a friend. Here's a remembrance from a friend who knew
him well.
It was easy to
be Greg's friend.
How could you
not love a guy who was 46 but still got a trim when his mother told him his
short-cropped hair was getting too long.
- A guy who called
his wife, Elizabeth, his "best friend."
- Who never gave
his son grief about his dreadlocks or whether he could support himself as
an artist.
- Who was sure
enough of his masculinity that he could acknowledge that he didn't know the
difference between the score and shots-on-goal at a hockey game or could only
offer me sympathy - not a hammer or a hand - when my Christmas tree kept falling
down the first holiday after my divorce.
- A guy who loved
office gossip, but never had a bad word to say about anyone. Who was nice
to people even when they were rude to him.
- Who loved working
for a newspaper.
- Who always
saw potential in downtown St. Louis.
- A guy who loved
cats.
- Who was the
soul of the Greater St. Louis Association of Black Journalists.
- Who liked to
start meetings on time.
- Who gave much
and took little.
- Who never complained
when I saw him in the hospital through his prostate cancer, incarcerated hernia,
his kidney transplant, his muscular dystrophy.
- Who had a crooked
smile.
- Who loved his
Beaumont High School reunions.
- Who preached
diversity in his columns and lived it in his life.
- Who had cassette
tapes in his car that ran the gamut from Motown to Smashing Pumpkins.
- Who was equally
comfortable eating sushi or snoots.
- Who got way
excited one day when we saw the gorgeous Pam Grier in a Washington restaurant.
- Who made no
apologies for loving those "Brady Bunch" movies.
- Who warned
me not to try to be hip in my columns because when middle-aged folks like
us tried it we just sounded goofy.
- Who I could
tell everything to.
- Who I knew
would never hurt me.
- Never insult
me.
- Never judge
me.
- Never laugh
at me but with me.
- Who knew everything
there was to know about me and stayed my friend.
- Who was such
a loving friend that I could love him back.
- Who imagined
us old and gray someday.
- Who I called
four times on the Monday before he died.
- Who didn't
say a word when I lingered long at his house last Thanksgiving dinner, savoring
the turkey and sopping up the warmth of his family.
A guy who could
sing.
Years
ago, when I got the wild inclination to sing at the office Christmas party,
even though I couldn't sing, I promptly asked Greg if he would sing with me.
He had done it before and our colleagues loved him.
I
can't sing by myself, I said. Would you? Could you?
He
didn't hesitate. That was Greg. Supportive. We practiced. I bought huge Afro
wigs. We sang. And I was awful. Of course, he never said that. He was too kind.
He just didn't have mean in him.
The last two weeks
we had both been racking our brains, trying to remember what song it was that
we had performed that night at Blueberry Hill. Neither of us could remember,
and we laughed that the memory was the first to go as you age. I'd remember
one of these days, I told him. It would probably come to me in the middle of
the night, I said, and I'd sit bolt upright in my bed. I'd let him know when
I thought of it.
On
Tuesday morning, I took the long walkway up to Greg and Elizabeth's place in
the Central West End, and I felt an overwhelming sadness.
"Second
That Emotion" popped into my head. That had been the song.
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