Headline: WE
CAN ALL PLAY A ROLE IN GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER
Reporter: By Gregory Freeman
Publication: ST.
LOUIS POST-DISPATCH
Last Printed: Tues., Dec. 7, 1999
Section:
METRO, Page: B1, Edition: FIVE STAR LIFT
Racial polarization
During his days
as a member of the "Saturday Night Live" cast, comedian Jon Lovitz
played a TV pitchman whose key phrase was "Get to know me!"
Lovitz's
character would often start off talking about how before meeting him someone
had been "a down-and-out country bumpkin who never had a real job or even
a home of his own" ... "And now that man is president of the United
States. Get to know me!" Lovitz's key phrase could be used by lots of other
people, albeit without the alleged phenomenal success of his character.
Many of us could enhance our own knowledge by getting to know someone or something else. But those in dominant cultures tend not to do that. We generally want people to know about us but we're often ignorant of them.
In her book, "Why
Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria, " psychologist
Beverly Daniel Tatum writes about dominant cultures. "Dominant groups,
by definition, set the parameters within which the subordinates operate, "
Tatum writes. "The dominant group holds the power and authority in society
relative to the subordinates and determines how that power and authority may
be acceptably used. Whether it is reflected in determining who gets the best
jobs, whose history will be taught in school, or whose relationships will be
validated by society, the dominant group has the greatest influence in determining
the structure of the society."
On
the world stage, where American culture dominates, Tatum's theory can be easily
seen. The average Mexican, for instance, knows that Bill Clinton is president
of the United States. But how many Americans know that Ernesto Zedillo is president
of Mexico? How many know that Zedillo studied at Yale? Probably not many, although
you can be sure that had Clinton studied at the Instituto Politecnico Nacional,
in Mexico City, most Mexicans would be aware of that.
Similarly,
the fact that many whites here often know very little about nonwhites is frequently
the source of frustration among the latter group. While nonwhites must know
about whites to operate in American society, many whites go through life knowing
relatively little about nonwhites.
Nearly seven years
ago, a friend and I formed a group called Bridges, set up to try to reduce racial
polarization in St. Louis, at least on a small level. It was designed to bring
people of different races together and help them develop friendships across
racial lines. We thought that if we could get people to know one another in
relaxed settings, like each other's homes, they would eventually begin to let
their hair down and say what they really felt, all while developing trust in
one another.
Over
the years, the program has worked. It's operated by FOCUS St. Louis, and several
hundred people have participated.
But when talking to African-Americans about the program,
I've sometimes been greeted with, "What do I get out of learning more about
white people? I've had to know about them all my life. They haven't had to know
anything about me."
Of
course, Bridges is about more than simply getting to know about whites or blacks.
It's about developing friendships and recognizing that race shouldn't be a barrier
to that.
Still, it all
gets back to Jon Lovitz's character. Why get to know me? Or you? Or anyone else?
Because
none of us has a monopoly on knowledge. And the nation as we know it today will
look different just 15 years from now, as the numbers of those from racial minorities
steadily rise.
If
for no other reason than changing demographics, we would all be better off if
we understood one another better. And while technology is bringing our world
closer together every day, perhaps nothing could bring us closer together than
really knowing -- and appreciating -- one another.
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