Headline: 'FAMILY
VALUE' ISSUE IGNORES REAL FAMILIES
Reporter: By Gregory Freeman
Publication: ST.
LOUIS POST-DISPATCH
Last Printed: Sun., Aug. 30, 1992
Section: NEWS, Page: 4B, Edition: LATE FIVE STAR
ONE would think
that Margaret Aaron's household would epitomize the typical ''all-American''
family.
She
and her husband live in a quiet neighborhood in St. Louis County. They have
two golden retrievers who romp playfully in the yard all day. They've raised
three sons, all of whom have graduated from college and are now on their own.
But Aaron is disturbed
by the recent talk among politicians about ''family values.''
She thinks that she and her family are being excluded.
That's because Aaron's oldest son is gay.
''It's
clear that when these guys start talking about 'family values, ' they're not
including my family, '' said Aaron. ''I feel that we're being condemned, all
because of our son's sexual identity.''
Aaron acknowledges
that she doesn't know exactly what politicians are talking about when they discuss
''family values.''
''I
think they've made it pretty clear who they're not including, '' she said. ''And
that's a shame. My son is just as human as anyone else, and he deserves the
same rights as every American. But these guys are trying to get a few votes
by picking on our family and other families like ours.
''My
son didn't choose to become gay. That was something that he was born with. Our
other two sons aren't gay, but they have noth ing against their brother. This
whole 'family values' stuff is silly, if you ask me.''
Or if you ask
Darlene Edmonds.
Edmonds
is a secretary downtown who is the mother of a 10-year-old boy. She got pregnant
when she was in high school.
''It
sure wasn't something that I planned to do, '' she said. ''But I didn't believe
in abortion, so I had my son. I'm glad that I did.''
She
also went back to school and got the skills she needed to become a secretary.
So it's no surprise
when she raises her voice when asked about ''family values.''
''I
am so sick and tired of these people talking about this kind of stuff, '' she
said. ''No, I'm not happy that I had a baby when I was in high school. But I've
tried to better myself and make life better for me and my son. So who's got
the right to condemn me - tell me that I'm living wrong? In some ways, I'm probably
better off than some of these people who stay married and fight all day and
night.
''As
long as I'm taking care of me and my son, I don't think it's anybody's business
- especially some politicians - how I live. I don't appreciate it.''
Both Aaron's family
and Edmonds' family are excluded when Vice President Dan Quayle says, ''There
is only one school of life's true values, and that is the family, the traditional
family.''
But
what is the ''traditional'' family? Is it a family where the husband goes to
work and the wife stays home to take care of two adoring children? I suspect
that that family hasn't been ''traditional'' in quite a while. White American
women have been in the working world for some time now. And most black American
women have been working even longer. Even ''Blondie'' of the comics has a job
today.
Let's be honest
with ourselves. The whole issue of ''family values'' is little more than a smokescreen,
designed to get people to take their minds off some of the real issues out there,
such as the lousy economy, the shipping of American jobs to Mexico and other
foreign countries and the country's environmental problems.
All
of those issues are issues that government can do something about. There is
nothing it can do about ''Murphy Brown'' having a baby out of wedlock.
The Washington-based
People for the American Way is denouncing the use of ''family values'' as an
issue. In a statement made public recently, the group says:
''No
one disputes the value of the family in American life. But in the context of
the 1992 campaign, 'family values' is a phrase that is being used not to include
and unite, but to exclude and stigmatize millions of Americans . . . Over the
past few years, this phrase has become the cover for aggressive, wide-ranging
attacks on women with children who work outside the home, gays and black Americans.
''However
innocuous it may sound, 'family values' rhetoric has become the framework for
sweeping and invasive condemnations of how individual Americans live their lives,
meet their economic needs or raise their children. It is particularly dangerous
because it is now being used as a wedge to turn public anger and frustration
with the nation's problems against certain groups in our society.''
We don't need politicians who talk about ''family values.'' What we need are politicians who value families - regardless of how those families are structured.
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